I woke up this morning with these words whispering in my mind…kindness matters.
Rushing schedules and demands of this world can often cause kindness to get pushed aside. A forgotten trait that seems insignificant. After all isn’t it more important to be efficient, be on task with our goals rather than taking a moment to be kind?
Is it though?
I would say a resounding NO!
Taking a moment to show kindness only makes everything else we are investing ourselves in better!
When I respond from an attitude of kindness to those who are acting rude, I see them disarmed. Taken off guard by a simple, quiet response and smile. Kindness doesn’t mean I become a push over, it means I show strength by choosing my response.
When my children need guidance or correction and I react out of anger or frustration, I loose my window into their heart at that moment. If I choose to respond in a calm voice giving them instruction I disarm the attitude that was being portrayed causing our situation to change quickly for the better.
When the doorbell rings and I see a darling, smiling face asking if my girls can play I take that moment to show kindness. Investing a moment into another little persons day and showing them that they matter to me. It only takes a moment to ask how their day was, tell them you are so thankful for the friendship they offer your children or just genuinely smile and chat for a minute.
You see, I am sowing seeds here. In all of these moments I have talked of I am sowing seeds that only kindness offers me. I desire my home to be a place of peaceful intension. A place where all are welcome and feel loved. A place where my husband can come home to after a long days work and be able to rest and follow his own dreams. A place where my children can share the issues of their little hearts and know that no matter what they are loved. A place where I am building relationships with my children’s friends so that they know this is a home that they will be loved in. A place where my own dear friends and family can come and know that they matter to me. They are welcome.
Kindness produces peace. Breaking down barriers in relationships and building bridges to hearts.
Smiling to those I pass along the path while I walk my dog. Asking the clerk how she is today. Listening to the broken heart of a woman who just lost her husband of 52 years. Stepping out of my own level of comfort and choosing to show kindness goes straight to the heart of a hurting soul.
Kindness is not the easy choice. It is often an easier response to be closed off. To offer a harsh word when I have been treated harshly. To loose my temper is easier. My husband would say that tempers are never lost, they are simply unleashed. So very true. Keeping a guard on my mouth and pausing to give thought to my words isn’t the easy way. But, kindness is the best way.
Being kind is often an act of intension. Yes, I believe kindness is a choice. I am not always kind, sometimes I succumb to the human nature inside of me and unleash harsh responses or impatient attitudes. Sometimes I fail at my quest to offer kindness. But you know what? I can open my heart, ask for forgiveness and choose kindness once again.
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4 -7